1) Focus on BASIC
The crux of happiness is getting the basics checked. Focusing on the basic also helps taking major decision as it helps in avoiding the chaos. The definition of basic can vary from individual to individual. For example, getting married and becoming parents is a basic proposition of human life. In a relationship between husband and wife, the basics maybe health, money to sustain and meet some of the aspirations, both engaged in their love of work, trust on each other and similar kind of mindset (directly related to upbringing). For buying a plot, it can be location, price and Govt clearance. Technology can be considered basic if it is used to gather information which is unavailable otherwise. A person might love to show his social or financial capital, but these are not basics. Understanding and accepting the BASIC will help to come out of chaos, FOMO, direction lessness etc.
2) Aspiring to be 'bad'
Life is full of challenges and a person needs to wear different hats while making her way through life's obstacles. A person who is calm and composed throughout her life, might have face moments when the necessity to be rude/selfish/unkind is felt strongly. The person might have felt she is not fit into some profession/initiative just because of her 'goodness'. Now, is it wrong if she makes a point to groom her child to be 'bad'? The danger here is the basic assumption that the child will organically inherit all the goodness from parents, supplemented by the 'bad' taught by the parents. What if the assumption goes wrong and the 'bad' becomes prominent?
3) Life's main purposes
The cat is out of the bag. There are only two main purposes of human life - happiness and legacy. Happiness is well accepted theory now and the discussion is mainly on the factors contributing to happiness. Some say basics, some say relationships, some wants money and health. The underrated theory of creating a legacy is still debatable. For middle class and upwards, legacy creation is synonymous with 'doing extra', 'impactful job', 'changing lives of people' etc. This can be beautifully summarized by one single line- how do you want the next generation to remember you? Considering human life is only one time, don't you think it is important to leave something significant behind when you die?
4) Compromise v/s Knowledge
A teenager dreams to be the CEO of a company. By thirties, he starts exiting that dream. Can that be called a compromise? or was that an immature decision taken with lack of information? Does the family responsibilities force one to let go childhood dreams or does acquired updated knowledge pushes the person to define new purposes and change the dreams? This often brings one practical question- is spending years after years preparing for a competitive exam makes sense or changing the 'aim in life' makes more sense? What does the word compromise mean anyway? Is compromise a 'bad' word?
5) Definition and measurement of life's portfolio?
Life's portfolio is huge and can be on ever expanding mode. Food, job, sex, relationship, aspirations, contribution, legacy, trying difficult things, creating memories, saving the memories in an appropriate ways, finding little little happiness, doing construction, writing, reading, being good samaritan, showing part of your life, learning new techniques, finding equivalence with your peers, buying materialistic pleasures, trying spiritual means- the list is simply endless. Is there any way to categorize this in line with the financial portfolios - equity, debt, immovable asset, liquid money etc. How to measure the need and luxury of the portfolio items?
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